my mother literally sati the most disgusting today. she’s mad at me for going to go hang out with the band after their show. she said that if something had happen (i.e. If one of them raped me) I wouldn’t be able to complain because I put myself in that situation.

I need feminism because my mom told me if I had gotten raped it’d be my fault


Anonymous asked:

You say that our culture is wrong about telling women to remove facial hair/arm/leg hair. However, from your picture I can see that you do your eyebrows and remove facial hair. You are not practicing what you preach and it's hard for people like me to be inspired or moved by someone whom fails to do so. Just a thought i had while reading your blog (p.s amazing poetry ).

rupikaur answered:

hi my love.  I am so sorry you feel this way.  i am sorry i can’t be of inspiration to you.  i try to do my best to be of service to the world.  i am a servant of this universe after all.  but i too, am not perfect, and cannot please everyone.  i think we got a few things mixed up in the messaging.  

i never said our culture was wrong.  i said our society was wrong for demoralizing women who decide to keep their hair.  why? because each woman has the right to do what she wants.  so a group of people attacking a woman for not removing her hair, is just as bad as a group of people attacking her for keeping it.  and sweet sister, no one can judge my journey with my hair from my picture.  it is deeper than that.  looking back at what i said yesterday word for word:

removing all hair off your body

is okay if that’s what YOU want to do 

just as much as 

keeping all hair on your body is okay 

if that’s what YOU want to do 

I do get my eyebrows done.  when i feel like doing them.  and sometimes i go through long periods and months where i leave them untouched.   i will wear shorts with my legs completely unshaven at times.  i have been growing the hair on my head for the past 2 years.  i have a right to do what i please with my body.  but i do not have a right to harass others for doing what they want.  

it is my duty as a human being to love, love, and only love.  it’s my duty to live judgement free.  that’s the message i’m trying to promote.  your body is yours.  do what YOU want with it.  don’t change for others.  accept all. and mostly, learn to accept what comes naturally to you.  i do what makes me feel safe and happy and loved.  I’m promoting CHOICE.  The hair shouldn’t offend anyone, nor should it be seen as unfeminine.  Other women’s bodies are not our battlegrounds.  When women are looked at, i want them to be seen as independent, with the right to do what they please.  Let’s not toss animosity on each other.  We need to see each other as empresses and treat each other as such.  

Peace be upon you my love.  I send all my grace. all my goodness.  all my sugar.  and all my strength.  Thank you for sending me love for my poetry xo 

and to everyone reading, I want you to give yourself a big hug, look in the mirror, and tell yourself you are beautiful, and daring, and stunning.  we are all so magnificent.  and what we need is a sisterhood, where women help each other belong to themselves

  • Me: Talks about thing I like
  • RL friends: I don't really care. Let's talk about things I like. They're a lot better. I mean, the things you like suck.
  • Family: God, you're a geek. Why can't you like normal things? Now shoo, I have more important things to listen to.
  • Internet friends: I know, right? I love that thing too! I'm so excited!
  • Me: Talks about feelings and personal problems
  • RL friends: Oh, okay, but that's not /that/ bad did I ever tell you about the time that this one thing happened to me and it was 3290259059059x worse?? Why don't we talk about my feelings? They're more important.
  • Family: Oh god here you go again with your teenage angst! Please shut up already.
  • Internet friends: Oh my god. I am so, so sorry. Are you alright? Do you want to talk about it? I sort of understand in a way, but this isn't about me, it's about you. Just remember that it gets better. Don't give up, please. I believe in you.
  • Me: Talks to internet friends
  • Family and RL friends: Why do you go online and on your phone so much? God, what are you, antisocial? What's your issue?
  • Internet friends: Don't worry, I'm here for you. I wish I could hug you right now.